Thread: Do mothers fuel the chauvinism in boys?

Originally Posted by Karikaalan

This is 100% true...
I was too attached to mother more than any others.. the man I am now is just what she wanted me to be ..
Chauvinism.. a new term to me .. but that is true that many mothers keep telling their boys that crying is not for men..
Hope our generation girls will change this when they become mother's.

I too hope our generation girls allow their boys to be more human, like allow them to express what they are feeling rather than make them a feelings storage machines.Most of the men have high stress level because they are suppressing their feelings which make them emotionally depressed.

Originally Posted by subasan

I was reading all of your views and there is one word which kept repeating in my mind - ABSURD! I was planning not to comply but want to share my view here. To begin, chauvinism is a big word. You can't just blame mothers only. It's the whole society who says men shouldn't cry. Also, I don't believe that these above mentioned incidents were the whole cause for psychopath behaviours in men.

About mothers being partial towards boys - I've grown up with sisters and I did have more freedom to roam around in the late nights. Now looking back, if my sisters wanted to go out in the night they would've been let out too but it was their choice to stay at home. I'm not saying this is same case in every family but just saying. In fact, my sister was the first in our family to move to a different city to work and dad encouraged her to take it as she was hesitant in the beginning.

To conclude, I'm what i'm because of the women in my family and I'm proud to say that. Also, i'm not saying women are not to be blamed but my brain won't process the fact that mothers fuel chauvinism.

P.S: For those who think men don't cry or not allowed to cry, I'm saying that we do cry and we cry for silly things too.

Thanks For sharing your view here, for you the discussion may seemed ABSURD but all the people here shared their point of view from their experience as you shared yours.I am glad to hear that you have so much value and respect for the women in your life. I agree society also play a role in chauvinism but in a family women (especially mothers) have the big role in fuel chauvinism in men.I have seen this in my life and I am not accusing mothers I just wish them to change their mindset.

Originally Posted by subasan

I shared my POV but just wanted to make sure, are you saying that mother asking her son not to cry fuel chauvinism in men?

No , I just took that as an example, The point is, In most of the family mothers treat their boys more special than the girl children (in every way)which fuel chauvinism in men, again I am not accusing all the mothers,directly or indirectly these upbringing make some men chauvinist.

It's just a thing like father treats their daughter as princess. Doesn't mean the girl become a queen? It's just a siblings rival that the one is treated better than the other but parents treat them equally and we know it.

I totally agree with this point. In our we all had this siblings rival but when we grew up we automatically realize the truth.

I don't agree that mother's feed chauvinism in men. It's the society that fuels this.

Society play a key role in men chauvinism but there are SOME mothers who fuels chauvinism in men.

Maybe in Ramarajan's (yesteryear actor) lifetime.

At least, you have accepted that there maybe chances for this

But I stand in my point, 'Mother's have nothing do with male chauvinism'.

I am happy that you didn't see the society that we have seen.