Your question itself has the answer. Give respect to your gf/bf. The respect you give them shows your love for them. Forcing the other person for your own benefits is a kind of narcissist behaviour. Instead try to understand them better and give them the space they needed. Try to understand from their view and don't force your view on them. With age comes the maturity and the true understanding of love. This is the interview between two celebrities (divorced) whom I look up in life, please check with video to understand matured love,
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