Thread: Girls, Share Your most embarrassing and brutal abuses that you've seen

Originally Posted by Shivani

Gobi, yes totally true! The same is with me I travel every weekend to Jaffna and i'm almost completing my studies I go through the same problems just like you go through. but what I do to be honest is once the person crosses his limits I either shout at him to get up and go away so that he would get humiliated ( only when I loose my patience) or poke him with a pin or ark then automatically he starts walking away!

Sometimes I did the same ,I poked the person with an Ark ,But most of the time i walk away from them and settle on a safe place.

We should teach male children to respect women and female children to defend themselves from those jerks, Then only we can reduce the abuse in our society.
The Society should stop humiliating the victims instead of the criminals .

We should teach male children to respect women and female children to defend themselves from those jerks, Then only we can reduce the abuse in our society.
The Society should stop humiliating the victims instead of the criminals .

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YES, What our society usually does is ( Especially those old women and aunties) they blame the victims (girls) if the fault is on their side of men and try to cover the incident.
For instance: If a husband abuses a girl physically, his wife ( few) would blame the innocent kid just to save her husband and her family's reputation. I've heard so many cases like this from my own friends even, they would be crying while sharing their stories.

Originally Posted by Shivani

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YES, What our society usually does is ( Especially those old women and aunties) they blame the victims (girls) if the fault is on their side of men and try to cover the incident.
For instance: If a husband abuses a girl physically, his wife ( few) would blame the innocent kid just to save her husband and her family's reputation. I've heard so many cases like this from my own friends even, they would be crying while sharing their stories.

This is the sad reality of our society. Only god knows why

As A Girl whose father died in her very young age, I faced abuses in my young age from the men in my so called relative circle, Because they thought there is no one to protect me, But they never knew that i could protect myself from them. one of my relative tried to harass me but I threatened him with a knife. Thank god I escaped from that predator. After that incident I started avoiding myself from being alone without any females around me. In bus travels I have to go through unwanted touches and dirty looks . I hate bus travels because of these cheap acts by some jerks. whenever these kind of incidents happen i move away from the certain place and go find myself a much safer place to settle. " I Feel courageous enough to share this here"

Poke him with a pin or ark then automatically he starts walking away

Nice trick, makesure you're not going to kill him though

my mother has advised me several times not to do so because she gets scared whether those predators would notice me and abuse me later on!

Very true, when you reveal your weakness the moment you'll start getting more and more pressure never before! Better, be brave and find your options to mitigate the situations! it doesn't mean you wanna digest the situation, but you can mitigate it properly to avoid further conflicts.

And I'm not ashamed to share this because all girls are being abused both mentally and physically everyday in their life.

Originally Posted by Beacon

Nice trick, makesure you're not going to kill him though

I won't, I hope he doesn't kill me

Very true, when you reveal your weakness the moment you'll start getting more and more pressure never before! Better, be brave and find your options to mitigate the situations! it doesn't mean you wanna digest the situation, but you can mitigate it properly to avoid further conflicts.

Very true not only in these situations but in our personal lives us well, once people know our weakness they'll start stepping on us. Those lines of yours were truly motivational! Thank you

Totally agree on this point! instead of argue and treat them as criminal better

1) call them as brother
2) ask politely with a right move
3) maybe give him your seat to make him feel guilty ( depends on the person social/moral style )
4) find a right place where you feel comfort ( practically impossible in the busiest public transports)

I think that this is only applicable for those guys who show themselves as decent in the public. They won't physically abuse us but they would mentally abuse by asking our mobile numbers!!
WOULD THEY LEAVE US IF WE CALL THEM AS BROTHER?
According to me I totally disagree with this point.
If a women gives permisson to touch her is it okay for him to touch her rather than his own wife? ( I don't want to argue on this, this is just my opinion and I want to know the answer from your side as well)

I think that this is only applicable for those guys who show themselves as decent in the public. They won't physically abuse us but they would mentally abuse by asking our mobile numbers!!

Let's be practical about this conversation! If they are asking from all the women's then that's a different mentality, But if it happened very specifically and very polite way then i assume this could be a love that he's trying to reach you in a different channels to express his love! No matter how brave is the men, when men proposing to a women about his true he love's is absolutely a very terrible situation and they'll be ridiculously weak during that time. They to be steady and brave, But mostly they flopped! such situations will make the women to think in a very different perspective.

WOULD THEY LEAVE US IF WE CALL THEM AS BROTHER?

Again, if the men is seeking a different needs then this won't work, because he won't even think about it! but, again let's be practical! if he's trying to propose you then 50/50 chances he could leave you.

Originally Posted by Beacon

Let's be practical about this conversation! If they are asking from all the women's then that's a different mentality, But if it happened very specifically and very polite way then i assume this could be a love that he's trying to reach you in a different channels to express his love! Doesn't matter how brave is he, proposing to a women he love's is absolutely a very terrible situation and most of the men tend to be steady and brave, But they flopped! such situations will make the women to think in a very different perspective.

LOL I agree on this. But proposing a women by straightly looking her into the eyes is totally different from asking her or chasing her for her mobile number I believe that this is a kind of mental abuse as well the other thing is he might be doing this in love (UNCONSCIOUSLY) but as a women from our point of view we would think that he's trying to reach us in a totally bad way.
NO MATTER HOW GOOD OF A PERSON HE IS! THAT IS A WOMEN'S MIND

Again, if the men is seeking a different needs then this won't work, because he won't even think about it! but, again let's be practical! if he's trying to propose you then 50/50 chances he could leave you.

Yes if he is true he would leave us alone! But if he is a psycho( there are some guys) who thinks or has a mindset of that this girl is only for me and none should get her then that is SERIOUSLY a different story where as she would even end up dead!!