Girls, Share Your most embarrassing and brutal abuses that you've seen

**Beacon** · 05-09-2018, 08:42 PM

Hello Girls,
As far as i know, most of the women's trying to hide and ignore the abuses they're getting! Which isn't good and not tolerable, it will give you a tensed and stress situation which will end up with somewhere very badly. I'm trying to understand about the current social issues such as women abuse's! Could you please share us the most common abuses you've seen so far and how did you solved it ?

**Shana** · 05-09-2018, 08:57 PM

Originally Posted by Beacon

Hello Girls,
As far as i know, most of the women's trying to hide and ignore the abuses they're getting! Which isn't good and not tolerable, it will give you a tensed and stress situation which will end up with somewhere very badly. I'm trying to understand about the current social issues such as women abuse's! Could you please share us the most common abuses you've seen so far and how did you solved it ?

Talking about abuses to women will take a long time, coz the list is too long to explain. How do I even start?
Every bus travel I take to go to my university or attend a meet up,involves some random guy sitting next to me, asking me uncomfortable, personal questions or sitting or standing REAL too close to me. And I'm a girl of modern era and I understand that accidental touches happen. But as a girl, I know which is accidental and which is not. Every time I travel, I prepare myself for these kinda creeps and all I can do is politely ask the person to move away or alerting the conductor or I move away from that place and find another seat. And this is something that happens very often and this is the only thing I can share without embarrassing myself..

Only way we could solve this is by respecting the victims rather than treating them as criminals. Mostly even I'm scared to make a fuss, when someone crosses the limit, because I'm worried that people would judge me. Life is too testy for women already and these creeps only make it worse.

**Beacon** · 05-09-2018, 09:10 PM

Originally Posted by Gobi

Talking about abuses to women will take a long time, coz the list is too long to explain. How do I even start?
Every bus travel I take to go to my university or attend a meet up,involves some random guy sitting next to me, asking me uncomfortable, personal questions or sitting or standing REAL too close to me. And I'm a girl of modern era and I understand that accidental touches happen. But as a girl, I know which is accidental and which is not. Every time I travel, I prepare myself for these kinda creeps and all I can do is politely ask the person to move away or alerting the conductor or I move away from that place and find another seat. And this is something that happens very often and this is the only thing I can share without embarrassing myself..

Only way we could solve this is by respecting the victims rather than treating them as criminals. Mostly even I'm scared to make a fuss, when someone crosses the limit, because I'm worried that people would judge me. Life is too testy for women already and these creeps only make it worse.

I couldn't agree more @Gobi.

Originally Posted by Gobi

Only way we could solve this is by respecting the victims rather than treating them as criminals. Mostly even I'm scared to make a fuss, when someone crosses the limit, because I'm worried that people would judge me. Life is too testy for women already and these creeps only make it worse.

Totally agree on this point! instead of argue and treat them as criminal better
1) call them as brother
2) ask politely with a right move
3) maybe give him your seat to make him feel guilty ( depends on the person social/moral style )
4) find a right place where you feel comfort ( practically impossible in the busiest public transports)

Again,
Real men never touch a women without her permission and men's should guard the women's instead of abusing! it's not recommended to stayaway and maintain low profile! some circumstance women's needs to act seeking help or defending themselves.

**Bhavya** · 05-10-2018, 11:36 AM

Originally Posted by Beacon

I couldn't agree more @Gobi.

Totally agree on this point! instead of argue and treat them as criminal better
1) call them as brother
2) ask politely with a right move
3) maybe give him your seat to make him feel guilty ( depends on the person social/moral style )
4) find a right place where you feel comfort ( practically impossible in the busiest public transports)

I disagree with the point "call them as brother". Then what about those people who are being abused by their own relatives ?, Just as we hear in the everyday news.

**Moana** · 05-10-2018, 01:03 PM

Originally Posted by parijat

I disagree with the point "call them as brother". Then what about those people who are being abused by their own relatives ?, Just as we hear in the everyday news.

Good one friend!. Those abuses are being covered by the abuser's family just to save themselves and their familie's reputation. The victims are being false blamed that is why maybe victims don't come forward to share these problems .

**Bhavya** · 05-10-2018, 03:42 PM

Originally Posted by Shivani

Good one friend!. Those abuses are being covered by the abuser's family just to save themselves and their familie's reputation. The victims are being false blamed that is why maybe victims don't come forward to share these problems .

Couldn't agree more

**Arthi** · 05-10-2018, 02:15 PM

Originally Posted by Beacon

I couldn't agree more @Gobi.

Totally agree on this point! instead of argue and treat them as criminal better
1) call them as brother
2) ask politely with a right move
3) maybe give him your seat to make him feel guilty ( depends on the person social/moral style )
4) find a right place where you feel comfort ( practically impossible in the busiest public transports)

Again,
Real men never touch a women without her permission and men's should guard the women's instead of abusing! it's not recommended to stayaway and maintain low profile! some circumstance women's needs to act seeking help or defending themselves.

How can I call the man who intentionally look or Access me badly as a brother? I think brother is something sacred word I won�t use those words for those ugly mindset people. Girl can understand a boy�s intention by his looks. If a boy love a girl they try to make eye conduct not such indecent things. When we are traveling we lmostly face those problems not by our generation boys it�s by the people above 40 age (there are exceptional) at that time I couldn�t control my anger mostly I warn them by looks or I will leave the place. However at the situation we overcome it but the stress of the incidents can�t erasable from our mind.

**Bhavya** · 05-10-2018, 03:50 PM

Originally Posted by Arthi

How can I call the man who intentionally look or Access me badly as a brother? I think brother is something sacred word I won�t use those words for those ugly mindset people. Girl can understand a boy�s intention by his looks. If a boy love a girl they try to make eye conduct not such indecent things. When we are traveling we lmostly face those problems not by our generation boys it�s by the people above 40 age (there are exceptional) at that time I couldn�t control my anger mostly I warn them by looks or I will leave the place. However at the situation we overcome it but the stress of the incidents can�t erasable from our mind.

Couldn't agree more, I never want to disgrace the brother-sister relationship by calling the abuser "A Brother "

**Shana** · 05-10-2018, 07:48 PM

Originally Posted by Beacon

I couldn't agree more @Gobi.

Totally agree on this point! instead of argue and treat them as criminal better
1) call them as brother
2) ask politely with a right move
3) maybe give him your seat to make him feel guilty ( depends on the person social/moral style )
4) find a right place where you feel comfort ( practically impossible in the busiest public transports)

Again,
Real men never touch a women without her permission and men's should guard the women's instead of abusing! it's not recommended to stayaway and maintain low profile! some circumstance women's needs to act seeking help or defending themselves.

Calling boys "brother" is kinda useless. Coz, nowadays movies have made that "brother" word in any languages as somewhat meaningless.
And as for asking them politely, it works for some, and sometimes it doesn't. Men who are brave enough to abuse a woman in a public transport would never mind politeness and even after saying once, they do it again after sometime.
Giving him the seat sounds good and has the essence of giving a mental slap to him. But that is somewhat hard to do for me, coz when these creeps are near me, I hardly move even an inch in the fear of getting further contact with that guy.
And the last method works often.

Every moment a girl stays alive, she goes through stares,dirty looks, unwanted touches and unwanted so many things. I often try not to get the attention of the whole bus, because a creep abused me and that's a coward move, I know. But the thing is, I've directly seen people judge an abused girl, even though it's not her fault. They start judging the way she walks, talks, laughs, dresses and her whole attitude and finally they assassinate the character of that girl. Whenever I try to support those kind of victims, I get these weird looks and a lot of men and LADIES say that I don't know a lot about these things and they laugh it away.

I've tried standing up to those victims and what happens is I get ignored or given some nonsense explanation why that girl is characterless. After some time, you lose the will to even reason with these kinda people.

**Moana** · 05-10-2018, 10:38 AM

Every bus travel I take to go to my university or attend a meet up,involves some random guy sitting next to me, asking me uncomfortable, personal questions or sitting or standing REAL too close to me. And I'm a girl of modern era and I understand that accidental touches happen. But as a girl, I know which is accidental and which is not. Every time I travel, I prepare myself for these kinda creeps and all I can do is politely ask the person to move away or alerting the conductor or I move away from that place and find another seat.

Gobi, yes totally true! The same is with me I travel every weekend to Jaffna and i'm almost completing my studies I go through the same problems just like you go through. but what I do to be honest is once the person crosses his limits I either shout at him to get up and go away so that he would get humiliated ( only when I loose my patience) or poke him with a pin or ark then automatically he starts walking away!

Only way we could solve this is by respecting the victims rather than treating them as criminals. Mostly even I'm scared to make a fuss, when someone crosses the limit, because I'm worried that people would judge me. Life is too testy for women already and these creeps only make it worse.

Agreed! my mother has advised me several times not to do so because she gets scared whether those predators would notice me and abuse me later on! (As a parent she is right) And there are some guys who come behind me asking for mobile numbers I've even warned them that I would complain this to the police straight looking at their faces( This might not be a physical abuse but it is definitely a mental one) This has even caused a lot of problems for me in my family, all they did was misunderstand me!! And I'm not ashamed to share this because all girls are being abused both mentally and physically everyday in their life.