Does dowry system is the "Dream Killer" of girls?

**Helena** · 10-29-2018, 05:36 PM

Originally Posted by Adiza

In my POV you have to look into the root of the problem. Why this dowry system was brought into our society?

In earlier times, the dowry was given to the bride for financial independence in her life after marriage. The whole dowry properties belong to her, not to the groom or his family.
But nowadays it is not necessary that the girls should be given a dowry. Because most of the women are earning and they are financially independent. And in another POV, the bride is leaving her home and accepting another family as hers and living with them. So the groom side should give dowry for her. Nowadays, the parents have to educate their daughter and also have to save for the dowry. After her marriage, her earnings belong to groom family. But for a son, it is enough to educate him for a job. This is so unfair. If so, the contribution should be given equally by both families to start a new life. Dowry is not less than begging. He just has the guts to earn himself to keep her respectfully, who is giving lifetime commitment to him.

You are right Adiza and that's why parents having more than one daughters feel stressed.They have to think about saving enough money to the dowry of their daughters, to plan the wedding and also to educate them.Nowadays groom side expect a bride with a good educational qualification and also expect more dowry.

**Adiza** · 10-29-2018, 08:02 PM

Originally Posted by Helena

You are right Adiza and that's why parents having more than one daughters feel stressed.They have to think about saving enough money to the dowry of their daughters, to plan the wedding and also to educate them.Nowadays groom side expect a bride with a good educational qualification and also expect more dowry.

That's how the equation son=asset; daughter= liability.... sad truth