Thread: Do mothers fuel the chauvinism in boys?

Originally Posted by Shana

Every time a mother says "don't be scared like a girl!", "don't' cry like a girl!","Boys shouldn't cry", those kids grow up thinking that crying and admitting fear are girly habits which show weakness. This leads up to chauvinistic mid set in their early days and they grow up to be the abusers, sociopaths, and sadists who take pleasure in hurting women. Women have a strong impact on their kids and when it's a boy child, the mother is always partial to him than the girl simply because of the gender.

These kinds of words suppress the feelings of a boy that he shouldn't express anything emotionally. Actually, this is a real problem in the future, he becomes insensitive when his wife or any girl emotionally breakdowns in some situations.

Originally Posted by Shana

"Boys will be boys". This line is almost 100% heard in all families. I think it's unfair we're blaming the male society alone of its chauvinism. Women should take a part of the blame too.
Am I wrong in partly blaming women in the state of our society? Or Am I being anti-feministic?

Agree with you. What we are taught by our family shape our character and behavior. This is not anti-feministic.

Originally Posted by Shana

First of all, the mothers should understand that no matter what gender that child is, it's basically a human. That is the problem. they think that stopping a boy from expressing his emotions would make him strong. In reality, it makes the kid LOOK strong, but the kid becomes weaker than everyone else.

It's damn true Shana. I've met a few boys who look strong from the outside but very weak inside. Literally, they don't have the ability to handle certain situations very well. They act strong for the sake of society.