Give me the tips to maintain the distance with others!

I love my family and friends so much, but they are hurting me a lot, Even my favorite ones, you know the value of tears? I cried a lot but still their words are coming to my mind, I am unable to control my feelings, Basically I'm a positive person, but they are playing with my feelings, when I try think everything in a positive way, this kind of things making me feel down, there are a lot of situations I faced in my life, but for the first time I feel broken in my life that too very badly. why I unable to overcome in this situation? Whatever the problem is, we need to prepare our self to solve the problem, but I unable to focus on anything, Can anyone give me some tips to maintain the distance with others!

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Originally Posted by Katren

I love my family and friends so much, but they are hurting me a lot, Even my favorite ones, you know the value of tears? I cried a lot but still their words are coming to my mind, I am unable to control my feelings, Basically I'm a positive person, but they are playing with my feelings, when I try think everything in a positive way, this kind of things making me feel down, there are a lot of situations I faced in my life, but for the first time I feel broken in my life that too very badly. why I unable to overcome in this situation? Whatever the problem is, we need to prepare our self to solve the problem, but I unable to focus on anything, Can anyone give me some tips to maintain the distance with others!

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Katren,

I can understand your emotional state. It happens in life. The people we love the most are the ones who hurt us the most. the reason is we expect the same love,care and understanding from them that we are giving to them. And when we didn't receive those things from them we get terribly hurt and broken. Remember one thing we can't expect people to love us the same way we are loving them. When you learn to love people without the expectation to receiving that love back then only you can avoid these kind of hurts (I know it's very difficult to be like that because everyone of us want to be loved, but with practice you can learn to love people without expectation). When you try to keep distance from your loved ones it will hurt you more, so learn to love them without expectation this way you can avoid their actions and behavior to hurt you. Don't hurt yourself for their behaviors. Just love yourself enough to ignore them. Be happy girl :)

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Originally Posted by Bhavya

Katren,

I can understand your emotional state. It happens in life. The people we love the most are the ones who hurt us the most. the reason is we expect the same love,care and understanding from them that we are giving to them. And when we didn't receive those things from them we get terribly hurt and broken. Remember one thing we can't expect people to love us the same way we are loving them. When you learn to love people without the expectation to receiving that love back then only you can avoid these kind of hurts (I know it's very difficult to be like that because everyone of us want to be loved, but with practice you can learn to love people without expectation). Don't hurt yourself for their behaviors. Just love yourself enough to ignore them. Be happy girl :)

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Yep, it's very difficult, But I can't ignore them, because still I feel they are my closed and favorite ones, you know one thing, sometimes, we can't live without them, I have seen a lot of people but I think I'm very unlucky person, I don't have any good soul from my family and friends side, Maybe I was wrong, but Honestly I didn't make any mistakes from my side, I can't change others mindset and behavior, So I decided to maintain the distance from them.

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Originally Posted by Katren

Yep, it's very difficult, But I can't ignore them, because still I feel they are my closed and favorite ones, you know one thing, sometimes, we can't live without them, I have seen a lot of people but I think I'm very unlucky person, I don't have any good soul from my family and friends side, Maybe I was wrong, but Honestly I didn't make any mistakes from my side, I can't change others mindset and behavior, So I decided to maintain the distance from them.

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Katren,

Stop pity on yourself, you are good enough to be loved. The right people will find your worth and love you. So stop wasting your time on the people who are not able to find your worth. If want to keep distance from people that's fine. Just makesure to be alone with empowerment,not with loneliness.

I don’t understand.. is this a public forum no?
If yes, why did you guys delete my reply? Totally disappointed..

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Originally Posted by The Witcher

I don’t understand.. is this a public forum no?
If yes, why did you guys delete my reply? Totally disappointed..

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Witcher, Seems Like the above member Katren created this post in an emotional state and you replied to her "better you will die" May be you said it in a humorous way but it can be feel offensive for the user that's why I deleted your reply. I already informed you that in our forum we don't tolerate offensive,abusive and harassing words or discussion that can hurt others feelings.

In the above discussion you can clearly understand that Katren is broken emotionally in this situation, your reply may lead her to take wrong decision. It's a public forum we don't know in what situation people are creating posts here, so please always be kind to them. Hope you Understand.

PS: We can't be humorous in every situation.

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Originally Posted by Bhavya

Witcher, Seems Like the above member Katren created this post in an emotional state and you replied to her "better you will die" May be you said it in a humorous way but it can be feel offensive for the user that's why I deleted your reply. I already informed you that in our forum we don't tolerate offensive,abusive and harassing words or discussion that can hurt others feelings.

In the above discussion you can clearly understand that Katren is broken emotionally in this situation, your reply may lead her to take wrong decision. It's a public forum we don't know in what situation people are creating posts here, so please always be kind to them. Hope you Understand.

PS: We can't be humorous in every situation.

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this is not good at all. Mr or Miss or Mrs. Katren put the thread and I suggests that on my thought in simple way. why you guys thinks in different perceptive and different manner. This is the platform to share our thoughts. How can i trust this forum? maybe you guys will remove my threads in future.

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Originally Posted by The Witcher

this is not good at all. Mr or Miss or Mrs. Katren put the thread and I suggests that on my thought in simple way. why you guys thinks in different perceptive and different manner. This is the platform to share our thoughts. How can i trust this forum? maybe you guys will remove my threads in future.

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Witcher, When you first name called other members in this forum I privately informed you that we don't allow such things in our forum. The reason I delete this comment is it may hurt the feeling of other user. Just not think from your perspective only. When you are commenting on a public forum you should consider others perspective and situation as well. You feel offened because I deleted your comment. The same way your comment can offened the user's feelings that's why I deleted. If our humor hurt others that's not humor at all. please try to understand this simple fact. Thank you.